a spark of brightness

i learned yesterday that a friend of mine is cheating on his girlfriend.

what was i supposed to do? i wanted to ask him why... why he was doing it even when he knew it was wrong. was it because they weren't together and he missed having someone? was it because having a romantic interlude appealed to him? was it just for fun? i don't know. i don't understand. i want to understand. because it changed how i saw my friend.

i know we all have our own set of beliefs, our own values. but somehow, i am not yet adept at understanding principles that clash with mine.

there is a continuous battle within myself when this happens... whether to voice out my opinions or not. not many questions get answered when you don't ask. but i don't want to sound self-righteous in the process of getting my answers. so usually, i ask another person... and take their perspective about it. though this rarely makes me understand the situation, it does give me a chance to know another person deeper and more meaningfully. stories get unravelled, hearts are opened and friendships are made. it gives a brighter side to the not-so-good things in life.