i was going through some of the blogs randomly when i chanced upon this site. one of his posts that really caught my attention was that asking if guys and girls can be friends. just plain friends. no romantic involvement at all.
i can surely say yes to this question. i have a lot of male friends through the years and a relationship beyond a platonic one never even entered my mind. there are even some that i think of as my older brothers. they have served as my teachers, my shock absorbers, my towerblock. i could not write all of their names hear for fear of missing out somebody who has made a big impact in my life so i'd rather leave their names unmentioned. in their heart of hearts, they know who they are.
admittedly, however, almost all of my past crushes have been my friends first. i do believe i only had one crush that i had romantic thoughts first before being his friend. i don't really know if it's a bad thing, falling for a friend. when the feelings are not mutual then in a way, it probably is. most of my friends who are in a relationship started out the same way. they were friends first and then it just blossomed into something more. and i do believe that this is the best way to have a relationship. it's much stronger, more grounded. it's based on something much more than physical attraction.
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a relationship which started from friendship has its good points. but when things go wrong, in most cases, you will not only lose a partner but you'll also lose a friend.
depende naman yan, dess. i honestly believe that if you're really good friends and you've parted ways amicably, pwede pa rin kayong maging friends. :)
hey, that's a link to my site! i'm honored, kat. =) i will never forget that letter you wrote when i had the most terrible breakup of my life. =) i dunno about me being there for you, but you were difnitely there for me. =)
i think there's a really thin line between platonic and romantic friendship because romance is too fluid and it doesn't follow any rules :-)
for years,i used to be really close with a guy-friend and i believed we were mutually not attracted. but a kiss underneath boracay skies messed it up. tsk tsk.
i guess guys and girls can be friends but it's not impossible that sensual tension can get in the way. anyway, if it works, why not? ;-)
-dette2
manong, nde ko na matandaan yung letter. probably because i am really a letter writing person at sa lahat ng chances kong sumulat, ginagawa ko. do you still have it? pabasa ulit. :)
of course you were there for me! kahit na hindi tayo parating nagkakasama, the friendship is still there. miss ko na kayo! :)
i agree, dette. ang problema is when you step beyond that fine line tapos nde pala reciprocated. may nagsabi na sa akin bakit kelangan pang i-reciprocate but the mere fact that you loved is enough already. pero syempre, iba pa rin diba? :)
kakatuwa naman ang kuwento mo. details naman! :) bigay mo ke claire yung details, pedeng gawing second book! :)
haha! baka maloka ka sa details :-D
punta ka runes ulit, kwentuhan tayo :-)
nabasa mo ba book ni claire? nandun yung name ko. pero d ako yung character ha? hehehe.
hehehe! sige, i-sched natin. maghanda ka sa kuwento mo. :D gusto ko, every itsy bittsy juicy detail! ;)
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